I’ve been single for almost one year but was in a long-term relationship for what seems like forever (actually, it was only like 5 or 6 years) so, even though I don’t have much experience, here’s 10 things love taught me.
- People love differently: We don’t realise that people express love in different ways and even though you might show and expect love in one way, your partner may not show or express it in the same way – but that doesn’t mean they love you any less than you love them. If you don’t know about this yet, please do yourself a favour and read up on The 5 Love Languages.
- Let go: Especially of people who are letting go of you. If something’s reached a dead-end, LET IT GO! No begging, no hoping, no praying, no fasting, no sacrifice and no amount of crying is going to change things. What’s meant to be will always be yours; so, let go and if it doesn’t come back then it was never ever yours and you can only move onto better things. If it does come back, then it was always yours to begin with. Cliché but hopefully one day it proves true.
- Your best is all you need to give: If you know you gave your best and nothing less, then you’ve done all you can do. No amount of if only’s and what if’s will change this or make it better. What you can do, though, is be pretty darn chuffed with your effort.
- It’s okay to fail: I was raised to believe that if you work hard, you succeed. Well, real life doesn’t always quite work out that way. You’ll give a relationship your everything, your entire core and it still won’t work – and that’s okay. It doesn’t define you and it certainly doesn’t mean your entire life’s a failure. Grieve it. Be sad about it. But put your big girl panties back on, smile and move on! Don’t live in the pain and the failure. Don’t let it consume you. Don’t let it become you.
- It won’t work if you’re the only one working: Love is a full-time job (just like your 9 – 5) and it’s a job that requires a 100% commitment from both of you. If the other person isn’t in it anymore, you’re wasting your time.
- Love is a choice: I believe that if you’re truly in love with someone and you fall out of love with them, you chose to stop loving them. No matter how hard things are, you can still choose to love someone through the difficult times – or you can choose not to. It’s your choice!
- People’s feelings change fast: I love you’s today and I don’t want to be with you the next but oh well!
- It’s okay if you still love them: You won’t understand it. The people in your life certainly won’t understand it. But it is okay if you still love the person that broke your heart.
- You had your faults too: Once you’re out of the situation, you’ve cleared your head and reflected on things on your own and with others, you’ll realise that you had your faults too. Yes, your ex isn’t all bad. So, what are you going to do about it? How are you going to work on doing better next time?
- You’re awesome: When you’re working on you and working on being better for you and hopefully working on being better for your next relationship, you finally realise you’re awesome! You’re worthy, you’re valuable and you’re amazing – and the right person will love you for it!
What has love taught you? What do you agree with? What do you disagree with? Let me know!